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=Opportunity Defines the Man= (By Sam)(ael) (Return to Teachings)

People say choice is what defines us. What we do is who we are. I cannot say they are flat out wrong, but they are mistaken. What they don't see is that, while choice is the action that signals the character behind it, it is opportunity that forces the definition to arise. And actions aren't everything even then.

Sometimes it is the things you __Don't__ do that define you. Sometimes the opportunity is just so special, that whether you said yes or no, it's going to make you different. Example?

Try the prettiest girl in the world wants you. Try aliens come down from space and ask you to go with them. Try God offers you control of the earth.

Here is an example: A man in love with a young lady he adores takes her on a date. He is a gentleman, and everything you should be. Later that night they come to a large open stage in a field. The night is thick and romantic with mist and moonlight sifting by. Being a dancer she dances and makes it clear that she wants to sleep with him.

Here you have an opportunity. Many choices are available. Many definitions that both the man himself, and others (including the lady) had of his character and personality can drastically change. Even if he has dealt with similar opportunities, this particular one has the potential in this moment to make or destroy him as he was and as he will be.

If he should choose the noble road (whatever it may be) he will be noble to himself (though others often think what they will). If he chooses villainy he may soon match the description in the minds of all. Many other choices exist, and many men can emerge from this opportunity.

The real closing grip to my thoughts is based upon what would happen if he did nothing. If he froze. What if no choice was made? What if hesitance or fear robbed him of the choice? What if he simply was incapable of response?

You see, even the things we do not do define us. Thus I make the argument that Opportunity defines the man.

Opportunities taken and not tell more than actions ever will. Because opportunity can adds flavor and better defines motive. Choice can be missinterperated.

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