Teachings,+Creating+a+Good+Image

Creating a Good Image
(Return to Teachings) (By Sam)(ael)

Now what is an image? Its an appearance that may or may not have substance. Are we talking about lying to people? No.

What Creating a Good Image is all about is presenting yourself in a way that is most attractive without losing your own self. When picking out clothing, there are a thousand styles and many levels of dress that affect the way you look. This is no different except that instead of clothing, we are working on who you are. Not making changes, but showing you how to do it best. Remember that on a stage you only need to step a few steps to your left and you are out of the spotlight. Here you will learn how to stay visible and be yourself in a way that will make you a person that people immediately understand to be of substance and grace.

The Rule: Remember that you can't fake being a good person.

**Dress and Grooming**
Let us face it! The book gets Judged by it's cover sometimes. A lot of times. It doesn't make it a bad book if it looks ugly, but it also might not hurt to learn how to make the cover draw people in a bit more. By learning a little about dress and grooming you can gain an edge and still be 100% who you are. In fact, if you take some time in this section you might be able to express even more of who you are at first glance and without an hour in the bathroom every day.

Look, I am not a fashion stylist or a model (though I have dated a few models and usually the book ISN'T as good as the cover). Honestly, I could usually do with any shirt on and any pants on, but i learned that by sending a little more time choosing something that enhances what is already... Me. I can make my job much easier. Anyone can do this. With a little planning and experience you can create something very useful. Attraction. Not just to people, but to your way of thinking.

__Hair__ Ok, a mohawk might seem cool and it might even be what you like but it is not socially attractive to almost anyone. Its more like a prank that immature people play, or something that some people just decide they want to try out. Most extreme hairstyles are just as bad. Don't go too far into fancy, don't go too far into an extreme or overpowering hairstyle. Your hair should compliment you, not the other way around. Remember that a shaggy haircut on a male can say irresponsible and layed back, while a neat short haircut that is traditionally parted usually communicates some neatness and tradition in their lifestyle. Find something that says who you are and find something that compliments you. The exact same hair on two different people says two different things. Find out and they show it off.

__Makeup__ Usually this section is for females mostly though in sme cases it can apply to males. Too much makeup is a sign of insecurity. The object of makeup os to compliment the facial structure and accentuate certain aspects. Not to overpower the face or change the entire landscape. Usually, the sign of mastery with makeup is that people mostly wouldn't notice it was there at all. For Males, I know some use makeup to cover Zits and facial abnormalities. As a rule in all societies, makeup not used in the absolute extreme sparsity is not considered attractive. Embark at your own peril.

__Facial Hair__ Sadly this sometimes applies to both Genders. For Males a beard or other forms of facial hair such as a mustach, gotee, or sideburns can be a fun expression of manhood and can be used like makeup to accentuate certain qualities in the face. It can also be used to show a religious or other office held by the individual and it often affects the person's percieved age. Once again, try things out and find something that looks good and natural on you. You are not making a statement or waging open rebellion on the sighted world but you can pull a few strings and pull off a very attractive appearance without looking like a flamingo. For women, unless you are part of a circus, usually the most attractive mode is to avoid all facial hair.

__Clothing__ In the jungle of clothing you have a wide selection of options, especially depending upon you size and build and coloring. Remember, the man or woman is what makes the clothes. Look for clothing that just fits you nicely in looks and comfort. Avoid the whole mentality of looking for a shirt that will 'make you hot'. Look and feel good and let the clothes assist you in that pursuit. As always exposing too much of your body is a sign of imaturity or a gamble at seduction. However there are plenty of options that are modest and attractive for both genders.

__Jewelry and ornamentations__ Usually with earings, too many sets is not all that attractive in either gender. With jewelry simplicity can e they key to unlocking a lot of inner shine. One simple but beautiful necklace can do what an army of fine gems cannot. Also, don't compensate for yourself. People who wear a lot of Jewelry usually seem like they are compensating for themselves and feel ugly so they put on lots of jewelry to hid behind. You are beautiful. Even an 'ugly' person doesn't look better under twelve rings eight necklaces, and a million wrist bands.

__Body piercings and Tatoos__ These are usually expressions of being a rebel and often go bed after several years, becoming blurred and faded. They can possibly be tastefully implemented but in general you should avoid them if you wish to look good.

__Shoes__ People invest surprising amounts in shoes. Think about just three things when selecting shoes. Looks, comfort, and purpose. Usually shoes are made for specific purposes. Hiking boots for hiking, slacks for church, flip-flops for extremely casual or pool activities. Figure out what balances out between looking good where you are going and what atually makes your feet feel good in the process of walking.

__Hygene__ Brush your teeth and floss at least once a day! Even if you don't have ANY body odor apply something that smells good everyday and possibly more than once. Shower at least daily! (including washing all of your body and your hair carefully with at least soap) Wash your hands whenever you use a bathroom facility or at least once before each meal and before preparing a meal that other people will be eating with you. Take care of any cuts or infections by washing and bandaging the area. For your benefit and for other's comfort and safety.

__Outside and inside grooming__ Remember that just as much as your outsides need to be taken care of to be healthy, so do your insides. Be good to yourself and love yourself and you will find a whole new level of pretty or handsome. This is they key quality to physical beauty in a person.

**Manners**
A person's manners can make a HUGE difference. Think about it like this: You like a person who asks you to pass the butter and keeps his elbows off of the table a lot more than a person who scratches his butt and then whipes his nose while he reaches over you for the salad. That is only a relatively small start on manners. With excellent manners you can charm complete strangers and open the doors to getting the help you need. These elements contained below are just a large list of manners that are commonly accepted and effective. -Always ask permission. Even if you are not sure who is in charge, you should ask before you enter a home, a room not yours and not common to the public, do something outside of common mannerisms in a home or owner's property. Asking to be excused from a table, asking the boss if it would be alright to have a moment to address the board or if you can have more time on a project before the presentation at this meeting, asking if you may use the bathroom, asking if you may marry a father's daughter, asking if you may date said daughter, asking when that daughter's parents want her home by and if she can go to the place you are planning on taking her. Asking if you can have a seat. Whoever is in charge, make sure that when you are in their realm of influence that you ask permission courteously. -Proper pronunciation. It is easy for your words to become slurred over time. If you take the effort to speak clearly with a clean grammar and decent language you will be better accepted. -Courtesy. When another person and you both get into line at the same time, give them the first place. When you meet a stranger give them the benefit of the doubt and treat them like royalty. Treat the people around you like honored guests wherever you go. -Chivalry. For a male it is always polite to get door or give up seats for women and to treat all females like ladies, with respect, politeness, and care. -Gratitude. Always thank those who have helped you, and go to the trouble regularly to thank people in bigger ways, such as sending a card or taking some time to really appreciate them in some way. -Humility. If you never regard yourself over others you will be polite to all.