Teachings,+Diplomacy

Diplomacy
(Return to Teachings) (By Silmerion Skywalker)

CONFLICTS:

There are 2 kinds of conflicts: internal and external Often the external conflicts are created or fed by the internal conflicts.

As a mediator, we should first of all work on our own inner conflicts to be able to maintain our inner peace and emotional control in any situation.

The second step is understanding the others's inner conflicts, and try to bring them peace, by our behaviour and words. Respect helps a lot in this case.

The third step is solving the external conflict by finding compromises and new ideas.

HOW TO SEE CONFLICTS:

Too often we see conflicts in a negative way whether they are internal and external, our way of reacting to them is fear or anger.

As Jedi we should see conflicts like opportunities to learn something, to grow, to find new ideas, to share things.

Observing conflicts in a positive way is already a step toward peace.

WHAT CREATES CONFLICTS:

Usually conflicts are created by: -ignorance -intolerance -false sincerity -judgement

Many times persons get angry at others because they don't understand them or their traditions because they don't know.

Many times, the persons have difficulties to accept what or who is different, again because they don't know or ignore all the common points they may have with them.

Many persons think that telling people what they think of them in front of them is a quality. "I am sincere" they usually say but this behaviour often creates conflicts. We should be sincere, but we should do it in an intelligent way, choosing the right moment, place and way to talk to the person. As Jesus taught us: talking first in private, then if necessary with a few witnesses and if necessary in front of the assembly.

Too many times people judge, it is easy to see the other's flaws and criticize, it is more difficult to recognize our own faults and correct them. Once again, Jesus taught us about this

HOW TO BE PREPARED TO SOLVE CONFLICTS:

We should meditate and pray in order to be at peace and find God's guidance.

We should try to know as much as we can about the situation and the persons: their emotional state, their ideas, their culture, the background of the situation...

HOW TO DEAL WITH THE PERSONS:

We can start to listen to each of them, with calm, impartiality, taking our time, helping them to relax.

Then if we have enough time we may meditate to find solutions, otherwise we have to think quickly of good arguments.

HOW TO PRESENT THE SOLUTIONS:

Often the persons involved won't be willing to listen or accept compromises.

It is good to express them at the right moment and in the best way.

A object can be seen in 3 ways: negative- positive- neutral The object is the same, only the way of seeing it is different It is up to the Jedi to present his/her solutions so that the others will see them in a positive way

It depends again on our way to make them feel good inside, feeling love and compassion for them, helps.

INSIDE OF US:

A Jedi should always maintain his/her inner peace to communicate it because often conflicts create a tension which fills the whole room and influence the persons, feeding the fight even more.

Not only, we should remain at peace but we should try to "send" this peace to the room so that the tension may soften and more serenity may appear. This is a good start to negotiations and should be maintained.

Master Silmerion Skywalker